2011 could be dream year for tech-toy lovers

A stunt car powered by light. Check. A table-top version of a popular iPhone game. Check. A battery-powered sweet-talking boyfriend doll. Check.

These are some of the items the U.S. toy industry hopes will help it rebound from a lackluster holiday sales season in which demand petered out after a strong start.

The top U.S. toy fair kicks off Sunday in New York just weeks after toy makers Hasbro Inc and LeapFrog Enterprises Inc shocked investors with a weak finish to the biggest selling season of the year.

"The buying patterns of the consumer have been permanently adjusted ... At least for the foreseeable future, they are tighter with their money, looking for specials," Jakks Pacific Inc Chief Financial Officer Joel Bennett said.

The 2011 lineup from industry goliath Mattel Inc to Hasbro to smaller companies such as Canada's Thinkway Toys will show how new technology and even iPhone apps are becoming the driving forces behind the latest playthings.

One of Mattel's bets for 2011 is the "Angry Birds Knock On Wood" game, a tabletop version of the current No. 1 paid game app for Apple Inc's iPhone . Inspired by 2010's top-selling music iPhone app, Jakks Pacific will tout a microphone that auto-tunes what you sing into it, making you sound like rapper T-Pain .

"A great game transcends the platform," Tim Kilpin, executive vice president of Mattel Brands, said.

Many toy makers are also jazzing up their traditional brands with hi-tech attachments or a social network avatar or an iPhone app to woo increasingly tech-savvy kids.

"It is clear that consumers are expecting to experience brands across digital and analog platforms in any form or format they want, anytime and anywhere," Hasbro Chief Executive Brian Goldner said.

Trend watchers agree.

"(Toy makers) really (need to) be aware of what is happening in the social media space and what's happening in mobility," said Reyne Rice, trend specialist for the Toy Industry Association.

"As smartphones become more prevalent in society and parents trade up to their second or third smartphone ... the other devices are going to be handed down to kids," she said, adding that she expects children to use the devices more to play games rather than to make calls.

Mattel's $20 "Sweet Talkin' Ken" doll will feature a built-in microphone and can record up to five seconds of sound, while Hasbro's $25 Jigazo puzzle will be powered with advanced software. The new Hot Wheels Videoracer cars will sport video cameras, while Jakks will look to woo gaming fans with "Kinectables" plush.

BALANCING ACT?

U.S. toy retail sales rose 2 percent in 2010 after declines in 2009 and 2008, with sales in the recent holiday quarter up 3 percent over the prior-year period, according to market research firm NPD Group.

Despite the overall sales rise, many toy makers saw demand falling late in the season when retailers applied brakes on discounts.

"Consumers are certainly looking for value," Hasbro Chief Executive Brian Goldner said.

Toy makers from Mattel to Jakks agree they are stuck in a tough spot between rising costs and bargain-hungry shoppers.

"We really do have to find that balance," Mattel's Kilpin said, adding that despite Mattel's plans to take some price hikes, the company will keep 80 percent of products in its portfolio priced below $20.

"There is no question it's a challenged environment," Kilpin said. "We are working that balancing act."

STAR POWER

Toy companies are also counting on movie superheroes for a significant sales boost this year.

On Thursday, toy retailer Toys R Us Inc unveiled its first-ever collection of wood vehicles, track and playsets based on the Disney Pixar movie " Cars ." Mattel, Lego, Spin Master all hold licenses for the " Cars 2" toy line.

Hasbro's lineup includes toys based on " Transformers -- Dark of the Moon," while Jakks is betting on upcoming movies like "Pirates of the Caribbean: On Stranger Tides" and "Real Steel." Mattel is also looking for some boost from the Warner Bros film "Green Lantern."

(Reporting by Dhanya Skariachan; Editing by Gary Hill)

Tips And Tricks - Love Is Great - Welcome! Value Love when you have it!

I value the love I have. I love a beautiful girl named Marife, who is a great mother (of Merry Fe and Mark ... love them!), and a loving member of her family. After knowing her as a good friend since 2006, I finally met her in person January 15th, 2009 ... and that is when I fell for her. The minute I saw her I knew I wanted us to be together. Amazed me ... still does.

I also love my daughter Sarah who is a great daughter. I also love the friends and family I have who have been supportive and I have been supportive to them ... mutual caring is good ... some for many years and others for many days. People are caring and loving if you let them. And yes ... we have cats ... which are good for showing love (when they feel it is a good idea ... sigh).

Check your life and think about who loves you ... Life is worth living, there is love in pretty much everyones life if you pay attention. And don't forget to let those you love know that you love them ... and let them know often!

Love And Dating Tips And Tricks Love & Loving Relationships are in everyone's life!

Hopefully, you will find this site VERY helpful in finding out about love, finding people to love, expressing love, and realizing the love you have in your life. That is the intention.

LoveIsGreat is the result of my redirecting in a positive way my feelings for a girl who was my girlfriend after we broke up in 1998. I didn't understand the overwhelming feelings I had for her and so I did a search for the answer. Turned out it was "true love" and the information in the About Love area is the result of that search. Since then I have learned a lot about more about love and hope to share it with you.

See, I started the site on the very day that she broke up with me. What I learned about losing a loved one is in the Broken Hearts area. Romance & Relationships reflects information I collected for the future, and experiences from my past too. Loving Gifts area contains gifts I loved to give (and ones I do give to friends and my daughter). Plus, ones I would like to give. Dating & Finding Love is a good area to look at if you are in that stage.

The Love Q & A area is where you can ask questions and get answers from others on the site ... and I will answer when possible too. You can also join the LoveIsGreat.com Love Club and communicate with others who are interested in love. If you are single, maybe you will find a mate. If you are married, taked, or not looking you can join and find friends or people to talk to about a nice subject ... love.

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Researchers (Hatfield & Rapson, 1995) have broken up love into two main types:

Passionate love which involves continuously thinking about the loved one and also involves warm sexual feelings and powerful emotional reactions.
Companionate love is having trusting and tender feelings for someone who is close to you.
Now one of the best known theories of love (which means an educated guess that isn't proven fact) is Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love.

The three components of the Triangular Theory of Love are:

Passion, the feeling physically aroused and attracted to someone.

Passion is what makes you feel "in love" and is the feeling most associated with love. It also rises quickly and strongly influences and biases your judgment.

Intimacy, the feeling close and connected to someone (developed through sharing and very good communications over time).

Intimacy is what makes you want to share and offer emotional and material support to each other.

Commitment, pledging to your self and each other to strengthen the feelings of love and to actively maintain the relationship.

Commitment is what makes you want to be serious, have a serious relationship and promise to be there for the other person if things get tough.

Now Sternberg also uses his Triangular Theory of Love to answer some of the most commonly asked questions about love:

Is there love at first sight?

This is when we are overwhelmed by passion, without any intimacy or commitment (both of which take time). Sternberg calls thisinfatuated love, Because there is not intimacy or commitment, infatuated love is fated to fade away.

Why do some people get married after being in love for a very short time?

This is a combination of passion and commitment, but without any intimacy. Sternberg calls this Hollywood love. This is where two people make a commitment to each other based on their passion. Unless intimacy develops over time, this relationship most likely will end.

Can their be love without sex?

Ah yes, companionate love, where intimacy and commitment are present without any sexual passion.

Why doesn't romantic love last?

Passion and intimacy without commitment is Romantic love. When the passion fades, and the intimacy wanes, the relationship ends.

This a close friend sent me e-mail:

Infatuation vs. Love

Infatuation is instant desire - one set of glands calling to another.

Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.

Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.

Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by their presence, even when they are away. Miles do not separate you. You have so many wonderful little films in your head that you keep replaying. But near or far, you know they are yours, and you can wait.

Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing them."

Love says, "Be patient. Don't panic. Plan your future with confidence."

Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in intimacy.

Love is not based on sex. It is the maturation of friendship, which makes sex so much sweeter. You must be friends before you can be lovers.

Infatuation lacks confidence. When they're away, you wonder if they're cheating. Sometimes, you check.

Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. They feel your trust, and it makes them even more trustworthy.

Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret, but love never steers you in the wrong direction.

Love is an upper. It makes you feel whole. It completes the circle. It fills the empty space in your heart. Love is elevating. It lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person than you were before. If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you don't have. If there is no love in your life, whatever else there is has a lot less meaning.

The secret of our being is not only to live but to have something to live for.


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Love and Dating - Advice For Men Woo Her With Flowers

Women are not like men. Many men forget that, when they enter into a romantic relationship. Women look at things differently and their choices are different. Men miss small patterns of behavior many times that can make them a big success with women. In this section, we talk about what men need to know about relationships with women to succeed and what are the common pitfalls that have to be avoided to get the woman of your dreams.


Woo Her With Flowers

Women and flowers have a love-love relationship since ages. Emperors used to order development of flower gardens just for their queens. Flowers are the eternal symbols of love. On your first date, take a bunch of flowers for your date. These need not be too expensive. Don't take red Roses. Take yellow Roses instead if you wish to take Roses. You can take lots of other flower varieties like Tulips, Lilies, Asters, etc. Pick up a fresh, good looking bunch and present it to her.
On your second/third date, when you think you are serious about her, woo her with Orchids - which are considerably expensive. Women always love flowers. So you will be in her good books!!
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Romantic Feelings - Love And Dating - Women Tips And Tricks

Romance, the eternal subject for most of the poets. Romance, the life giving force. Romance, that changes perceptions and romance makes a dull night a night of poetic thoughts. Romance turns an ordinary flower into a lover's gift to be preserved forever. Romance produces letters that are saved for generations. Romance makes everything look happy and cheerful.

Romantic feelings change perception. One who had never thought of reading a poetry, begins writing one. That is romance. One who is in romantic love, will have no complaints with the world. Even if the traffic does not move for hours, the romantic lover excuses everyone. That is romance.

Romance changes the way we look at the world. We see only good and every bad thing becomes either good or tolerable for us. Romance makes us magnanimous in thoughts. Romantic feelings make us sit alone and live in our own dreams. We need no one except ourselves to enjoy the thoughts of our romance. We want to be left alone and feel total peace and joy. During romance, every lip smiles, and every eye shines with the light of love.

Romance brings a new God in our life. Our beloved. Some romantics are ready to kiss the place where his/her sweetheart stepped. Romance is to be experienced and not talked about. Romance brings more hormonal changes in body than any medicine and has a definite effect on the heartbeats. They increase at the thought of the beloved. That is romance and to be in romance is to experience the joy of heaven.

There are many emotions and most of us experience all of them except romance. Emotions such as anger, nervousness, sadness and others like these are experienced by all of us. But few experience romance. There is a popular story in India of two romantic lovers. Laila and Majnu. Laila was the princess and Majnu was the son of a washerman. Once, it so happened that Majnu's father asked him to deliver clothes to the palace. There Majnu happened to see Laila and he fell madly in love with her. Since that day, he forgot everything including food, and was only asking for Laila. Some days passed, and this news that Majnu had gone mad in love with Laila reached the king. The king asked his Prime Minister about what could be done to help Majnu in this distress. The Prime Minister suggested that if Majnu wanted to buy anything from any shop, he could buy it for free. The palace would pay to the shopkeeper.

This news brought in many new Majnus. They bought things and behaved like the original. The palace started getting bills in plenty. The king was more worried now and again consulted his Prime Minister. The suggestion was simple - declare that Majnu will be killed after seven days by the palace. This announcement made all the actors run away for their life. Only the original Majnu was left out. He had no care for his life.

This made king think again and he got Majnu married with Laila. Majnu got Laila because he wanted nothing except her. His own life was worthless for him. What mattered was only Laila. This is romance.

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Why Do You Have A Partner?

From what one reads in forums on relationships, it seems that most of the relationships manage to give more pain than joy after some time. The rise in divorce rates is an indicator to this. Why have relationship if that will give more pain than pleasure to both the partners? Do not you also ask this question? It is becoming so difficult to keep a healthy relationship that one feels that he/she is coming from one office to another office. Where is the home with freedom, acceptance and love?

Relationships are becoming ego problems. Communication needs to be guarded. Wishes have to be taken care of. Sacrifices have to be made. Individuality has to be killed. Compromises have to be made at every step. Even after making many compromises, the relationship may break. One feels broken after making so much effort and find that nothing was of any use. It seems that either most of us are getting caught up with wrong partners or the break-ups occur very fast.

When I watch children playing, birds flying and fish swimming so carelessly, I envy them. We adults have lost all the freedom because of relationships. Most of us at least have lost a lot that was individual. Why have relationships if they are expected to fail. Is it triumph of hope over reality as someone said? Even when we look around and find so many broken relationships, we tend to form new. After having repeated break-ups, we want more. Why do we do that, though we know that the result is more pain? What drives us to form new relationships? Why not live alone and enjoy the independence?

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Love Dating - Tips and Tricks

Many men think that there is no place for chivalry these days. Girls may insist that they are independent and prefer doing things themselves. But being a little chivalrous at times never hurts. Every girl likes being treated specially. So opening the car door for your girl or pulling the chair back for her somewhere always earns you brownie points. Your girl will love you for the attention.

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Are You A Nice Guy?

How would you describe yourself- a nice guy or adventurous, funny, alpha male? It is important to find out how people perceive you? What women think about you? Why am raising this issue- because it may matter a lot when you are asking a woman for a relationship with you. While talking, you may find that women say that they prefer a nice, home loving guy, but look around carefully. Think about which of your friends got a woman of their choice- was that friend known as a nice guy or something else? There may a subconscious appeal for adventurous guy in a woman. Or she may be looking for somebody more different- most popular guy, a sportsman, a funny guy, a strong man and so on.

Do not get blinded by what the woman you desire says. Find out what she REALLY wants. That may be different than the description she gives.

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Improve Your Relationships


Relationships are complex things, but following these basics will help you make your relationships healthy and strong.

When in doubt, listen first and check to see if you have understood the other person by asking them questions. Often relationships go awry when people feel they aren't being heard or understood and sometimes it's important just to listen. You have to know what they want, not what you think is good for them. Listening is what helps us to find connection with each other. This also means you need to tell others what you really feel, think, and want. You can't feel connected if you don't voice these things.

Communicate simply when it is most critical that they hear you. Get clear in your own mind what kind of outcome you would like and try to state it in the most simple and specific terms. You will more likely be understood the more clear you can be, and often that means fewer words, not more. Sometimes repetition is necessary in getting through to someone what is really important to you.

Always show respect. Respect means listening, accepting a no when you are given one, not taking them for granted, being honest in your dealings with them, and not criticizing often or discouraging them. It is also important that you do not try to control others, and just as important that you show respect to yourself and ask that they treat you the same or be willing to walk away.

Know when it isn't a healthy relationship. Just because you care about someone doesn't mean you should be in a relationship with them at this time. They should be good for you, not addicted to anything, not controlling or abusive in any way, and make you feel secure and happy. It is not possible to make a relationship work with someone who doesn't care about you, or who abuses a substance or you, so don't try.

Seek to be good for others and don't tear them down. People like to be with those who make them feel good and who are good for them. Lighten up and have fun together and your relationship will grow.

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Does morning sex excite you?


'It's in the morning I wanna touch, it's in the morning I wanna love you, it's in the morning no interruptions, it's in the morning ... " goes singer Robin Thicke's popular number 'It's in the morning', but do women really warm up to men's desire for a great 'morning wood'?


When I wake up and see her soft, undressed body beside me, her eyes closed and mouth slightly open, like a dainty little angel that just fell from the sky, I feel a burning desire to love her, badly. These are the feelings of men who wake up with a hard-on, and men who are simply in love with the idea of morning sex. Unfortunately, most women do not share the same enthusiasm for morning glory as they feel bedroom activity is best reserved for nighttime. The sexual expressions of men and women have for centuries been a subject for debate. Here's a lowdown on why men crave for a steamy sexual romp at that hour, while women would rather get on with the day, pronto.

Says Dr. Kamal Khurana, a Delhi-based marriage and relationship expert, " Sex is a biological need, and you tend to relish it most when relaxed. A man feels most expressive when he wakes up as fantasies are touching him at that hour. And to find his partner lying next to him triggers an urge for sex." Dr. Khurana believes that place and availability are also reasons to initiate early action among men. "But in the case of women, she needs to be emotionally triggered first," he adds.

Then why do women not feel that emotional connect in the very hours, and are in a rush to begin the day? "In India, such a trend has been identified only in the last decade. In today's scenario both the partners go for work and return spent at the end of the day. The stress levels are very high at nighttime, and to get into the mood for a stormy lovemaking session may not come naturally," explains Dr. Bhavna Barmi, senior clinical psychologist at Escorts Heart Institute.

She relates women's abstinence from sex first-thing-in-the-morning to their higher emotional and sexual maturity. "Men would first like to rejuvenate and then start the stressful day ahead. Blame it on the multi-tasking required right from the morning of a working woman. From showering, readying breakfast, to packing off the kids, if any, to school, it is multi-taking all the way for her. While, the only responsibility of a man is to look after his personal hygiene and plan the day ahead," she elaborates. "And sex can become a tad mechanical when both the partners are not at the same emotional level," she adds.

Dr. Rajendra Barve, a psychiatrist at the IIT hospital, Mumbai, feels that this brief mismatch in their need for physical intimacy can cause serious strain on a relationship. "There is more freshness in the morning, the growth hormones are pumping, and the vigour of the body is restored from a good night's sleep. But when a woman wakes up, she is pre-occupied about the daylong chores and may not be instantly switched on by the idea," says Dr. Barve. Perhaps, a woman's way of looking at sex is very different from that of men. As Dr. Barve reasons, "A woman feels the urge for sex when she is emotionally aroused, while a man's sex drive is governed by power, and a tendency to win over situations."

"At that hour, if a couple do not experience an emotional and physical high in unison, it can get very difficult for them in the long run. And lovemaking would, little by little, turn into a mundane act between them," he says. But is there a way men can get their women interested in morning glory?

"As the man you need to wake up a little early and finish with your washing up, before slipping back into the covers again – fresh and fragrant - next to her," says Ashish, 33, a team leader with an international banking company. To keep a condom handy is another sensible thing to do, he tells us. "A woman likes to be woken up gently, and showered with plenty of caresses and kisses as she opens her eyes," shares Aditi, 28, an engineer who has recently tied the knot.

After all it's not that difficult to get your girl interested in morning sex, simply do not scurry, and remember patience and understanding her mood are most valuable in that glorious hour. Start with a warm welcoming smile, follow it up with a tender kiss on her forehead, and you will manage to get that sensual moan out of her! What say??

10 things men should never ask women

A list of 10 top dating tips to guide men on what they should never say to women.

There is nothing worse than making mistakes that will later be regretted and one way to avoid them is to remember the following.

First of all , a man should never ask a woman if he can kiss her, as she will only say, a man should never "ask" for a kiss.

Asking her for a kiss will only make a man look like a boy, which is what a woman is not interested in, and even if she says "yes", it could mean she is just being polite, while on the inside her attraction meter will read a firm, "No".

Secondly , a man should never ask a woman if he can take her out on a date sometime, as she would like to be with a man who is a leader and in control, not someone who asks her permission to hit on her.

A man should confidently ask a woman out, by simply saying, "We should hang out... what's your number?" or tell her about a specific place he wants to take her to.

Thirdly , a man should never brag about the car he has or the kind of house he lives in, as it would seem like he is trying hard to impress her.

Women would be far more impressed by a man's material possessions if he does not mention them in conversation.

The fourth thing a man should never ask a woman is what she wants to do for the night, as she likes a "man with a plan".

The man needs to have a game plan before he calls her, so as to ensure that she will not be burdened with having to think about what to do.

Fifthly, a man should never ask a woman if she likes him, as this is one phrase that turns off a woman completely.

He should just assume that she likes him, and never ask the question, as it would look like he has no confidence.

The sixth tip is that a man should never ask a woman why she never answered his message, as one, it would show that he cared she did not reply back, and two, it would give her a guilt trip, which is seen as insecurity by women.

The seventh tip is that a man should never ask a woman how men she has slept with, as this shows that he is suffering from insecurity.

The eighth tip is that a man should never hint at a future date with a woman he has just met, as she not only wants but needs a guy who is somewhat of a "challenge", and will lose interest if she senses she has won.

The ninth
tip is that a man should never end a phone conversation with a woman with a "next step", as firstly it would kill any spontaneity by being predictable, and secondly he would kill any chances of her calling him.

The tenth tip is that a man should never talk bad about a woman's guy friends especially if he hasn't met them and doesn't know her very well, as this is the fastest way for her to mark him as "insecure".

Seduce Your Girlfriend or Wife - for starters

If you are like most guys you are probably at a loss for what you can do to seduce your girlfriend or wife. It's ok. It's not your fault. Most women aren't very forthcoming in telling guys what turns them on and they expect you to figure it out or know through mental telepathy. She probably thinks that if you really cared you would just know what turns her on. Unfortunately, the same things that turn a guy on simply don't work for women.

Although books have been written on the subject I want to share with you a little bit about what you can do today to improve your relationship and see a significant change in your girlfriend or wife when it comes to her degree of friskiness. This may seem simple but when you make this change you will find that your wife or girlfriend actually becomes happier and more open to your advances than she might be if you continued doing what you've been doing.

Touching! Touching your wife or girlfriend on a regular basis will make a profound impact on how close she feels to you and how open she is to your advances. Touching is actually a basic form of seduction that can be used on any woman to create a connection and spawn intimacy.

Touching a woman on the hand, arm or back is almost a subliminal way to connect with her on a subconscious level and create the connection that women crave. If you think back to when you were dating you will remember that holding hands was kind of the first step that eventually led to other things in your relationship. Before you ever got that first kiss there is a very good chance that you touched her and she responded and felt closer to you.

Now that you have been together for a while there is a very good chance that touching your wife or girlfriend on a regular basis has gone right out the window. You are probably more interested in getting right to the main event and you probably wonder why she's not as interested anymore and you're wondering how you can seduce her and get back to all the fun that the two of you used to have. Making a conscious effort to touch her more often is your first step in recreating that intimacy and seducing your wife or girlfriend. You will be giving her one of the things that she wants and in return you will find that she is more open to giving you the intimacy that you want.

Make a conscious effort to touch her face when you kiss her hello or goodbye. Maybe grab her hand when you're driving or walking through the mall. Place your hand on the small of her back as you hold a door open for her or as you pass her in the house. Sit close to her on the couch when you're watching tv and put your arm around her. Be creative but be consistent and you will find that she not only notices but becomes more amorous towards you and rather quickly.

One thing to look out for though is that sometimes a woman might not want to be touched. I'm not talking about in a work environment where touching a coworker can get you written up for harassment. This should go without saying. But keep an eye out for nonverbal cues that a woman doesn't want to be touched such as if she pulls her hand away when you go to hold it or if she covers herself up with a blanket when you're trying to cuddle with her. Sometimes a woman just isn't in the mood or there could be underlying issues that need to be resolved before intimacy and seduction are welcome.

Overall though, you should find that your wife or girlfriend will eat up this form of seduction and you will probably notice a change in her almost immediately. Take advantage of any opportunity that presents itself and touch your wife or girlfriend and see for yourself if this form of simple seduction can bring the friskiness back into your relationship.

How to get a Girl you like : for starters

They say that men have only a couple of things on their minds - and in most of the case it's absolutely true. There is not much difference between the caveman and the men of today who is dressed well and doesn't kill another man because he liked his woman, the thought factors remain the same – hungry, horny, sleepy.

Whether you can't stop thinking about that wonderful woman at work or your eyes keep being drawn to the gorgeous girl across the room, or the sexy looking girl in your neighbourhood who zoomed past you in her shining scooty, crush has become all-consuming. She is all that you can think about. And now you want to know: are you all that she can think about, too?
Contrary to the Misconceptions, luckily girls are easier to read than many men believe.

Much like us guys, if a babe is into someone she will want him to know about it. After all, if he never notices her interest, she'll never experience that thunderous current passing through her head to toes when he looks at her in that special way or get that delicious first kiss.

The trouble is that, just like us, girls are scared of making fools of them. She would love to tell you she likes you but she's scared of misreading your signals and having you laugh on her face. As a result, she is shy about her clues, the signs are all there, but you do have to learn to look out for them. No rocket science required, just think what you would do if you were in her place or what would you have suggested to a very close female friend of yours who has fallen for a guy

So how can you tell if she likes you?

Let's start with the basics. These are the signals that every girl gives out, regardless of whether you work together or you've caught her eye across a crowded place or you happen to see her drying clothes on the opposite terrace or you end up buying the grocery from the same Reliance Fresh.

Is she looking at you and smiling? There's no better sign. Confident girls may maintain eye contact, but most will glance quickly away the moment you notice them watching you. Check to see if she keeps looking back your way - if she can't keep her eyes off you, you know that she's interested.

Watch for flirtatious body language. Most common syndrome:many girls fiddle with their hair when they're attracted. Some will start stroking their own arm, neck or face distractedly, while shy girls will blush whenever you look their way or start checking the time in her watch more often or start searching for something in their bag or pretend to read a message in her mobile or starts dialling a number. You can see that flurry of activities in the otherwise calm steady normal activities of her.

Now, the most important segment, let's make conversation with her, This is where guys makes complete ass of themselves. Following her every day when she returns home with a 10 feet distance or crossing her house or work station 10 times a day to get a glimpse won't improve the situation. You have to find ways to talk to her.

If your crush is on a girl you know or work with or is a neighbour, you have enough reasons to believe this complicates matters. Nobody wants to be rejected by someone they have to see or speak to on a daily basis. In fact, fancying someone you're friendly with puts you in a great position; you will already have proven to her that you're a good guy, and your close contact gives you plenty of opportunities to figure out if she's interested in you.

With the words starting to flow, she will look for excuses to get closer to you or touch your hand or your arm. Making physical contact with you is a sure sign of her interest. An assertive chick wants your attention she will become loud and start laughing at even the stupidest of your jokes, quieter girls may stammer or stumble when trying to speak to you.

Does she ever text or email you just to say hello? If you initiate contact, are her responses fast and chatty? Girls love to flirt via messaging, so don't act pricy or behave like a complete asshole; always give a prompt and positive reply. When chicks are into you, they will do almost anything to get your attention. If she's making jokes at your expense, she really wants you to notice her. Alternatively, if a normally shy or well mannered girl starts making loud or cocky sexual references she is trying to turn you on.

Arrange a group gathering. Invite your mutual friends or workmates to a movie or a lunch and try to gauge how eager she is to join you. A girl who cancels her important plans to be around you is keen to know you better, while one who seems genuinely regretful about missing out would love to get you alone.

And most important, never go and get advices from hopeless assholes who never had a girlfriend or has ever made an attempt to get one. Don't hit on your good friends sisters and if you are really not sure stay away from the good looking neighbour too.

Valentine's Day still an important holiday to couples of all ages

From surprise gifts exchanged by teenage sweethearts to a special
dinner after a half-century of marriage, local couples said the form
of their Valentine's Day traditions has changed over the years, but,
for many, the day's importance has not waned.

"We still mark the day, and even after 22 years (of marriage), it's a
good day to celebrate," said Chris Hahne of Williamsport.

She and her husband, Gary, plan to go out to eat with friends today.

When they were newlyweds, Valentine's Day was more about surprises,
Chris Hahne said.

"Maybe special flowers or maybe more than one gift," she said. "A
little more romantic."

Last Minute Ideas for Valentine's
Valentine's Day is just around the corner.
If you need to get something quick for your hunny, we have a few ideas for you.

You could get your significant other flowers.
Ben White Florist has several floral arrangements whether you're
shopping for your loved one, friend or family.

Lingerie could be another option, like these at Teddy's for Betty's
off South First.
How about a romantic night at home with a dinner for two from Central Market.

While there, you could pick up a teddy bear, chocolate covered
strawberries, a cake, wine and chocolates in a heart shaped box.
If you prefer to go out but haven't made reservations, head to the
Italian Restaurant Romeo's.

Carrie Wesley, Romeo's Manager said, "Valentine's Day runs a lot more
smoothly if everyone comes a little bit earlier than you would
normally like to eat prepare for await but we got lots of people
coming around trying to make this as smooth and fun as possible."
Romeo's is expecting a large turnout so make sure to show up early.
The live band will perform at 7:30 p.m.

Students celebrate Valentine's Day with crafts, cards

It's hard to find a holiday that can still be celebrated in schools
without criticism or political-correctness.

Big Bear

But across Great Falls last week, students in elementary school
classrooms were preparing to participate in the age-old tradition of
making mailboxes so that they could distribute hearts, candy and other
fun greetings to their classmates for today's holiday — Valentine's
Day.

"They're not going to remember who taught them 2 plus 2, but they'll
remember this," said Kaylea Mullen, a kindergarten teacher at Lewis
and Clark Elementary school, as she watched her students decorate
aluminum-foil covered shoeboxes.

"Kindergarten should be fun and as teacher it's our job to make it
fun," she said.

Whether it was the students in her class who glued heart cut-outs or
foam stickers with the words "love" and "hearts" on them, or
second-graders in Kim Bannister's Riverview Elementary classroom who
turned oatmeal containers into mailboxes, teachers have tried to make
Valentine's Day a learning experience as well as fun.

"You're learning about friendships," Mullen said. "Valentine's Day is
all about love and friendships."

In Bannister's classroom, they took the oatmeal containers and laid
them on their side. They then folded a piece of construction paper
over the top, and taped another piece of construction paper at the
bottom to make the mailbox shape and flap. Using popsicle sticks,
students attached flags to the sides of the boxes with their names on
them.

"Since the beginning of the year we've been bringing in oatmeal
containers," Bannister said. "It's something that they can take home
and keep for years to come."

She said the lesson for her students was two-fold. They had to follow
along and pay attention to directions, and she even squeezed a little
geometry lesson into the mailbox making.

"Boys and girls: What shape is the oatmeal container?" she asked.

They hesitated for a moment and then said in unison, "a cylinder!"

In Jessi Tucker's fifth-grade classroom at West Elementary school,
students brought in boxes of all different sizes last week that they
could turn into mailboxes.

Love is in the air...

By David Farrier

Valentines Day is named after a Christian saint named "Valentine" who
was beheaded after he was found to be secretly marrying young couples.

And today many New Zealanders did what they could do to stand up for love.

It was walk-about time at the Big Day Gay Out festival and love was in
the air, not just for the punters, but the politicians too.

"At least this year I remembered it, woke up gave my wife a kiss,"
says Labour leader Phil Goff.

The Prime Minister was also there, fresh from being crowned "sexiest"
politician in a survey by condom-maker Durex.

My Key says he regretted not being able to spend the whole day with his wife.

"My thoughts are with my wife, I'm sending her roses and gonna make
her dinner," he says.

"Shame I can't be with her all day, I have other commitments."

Meanwhile, restaurants up and down the country have been offering
special Valentines Day menus.

They love cycling in the capital, so that's what they did for
Valentines, the "Frocks on Bikes" club encouraged people to turn up
with their partners.

While Wellington was cycling, the Helensville Lions Club had their
annual "Running of the Roses".

In Pakistan, Valentines Day was cause for protest.

Around 300 female students burned signs and soft toys, saying
Valentines Day was un-Islamic, calling the event an unwelcome product
of western culture.

A different take on Valentine's Day

Last year I got a greenhouse for Valentine's Day. One of those tall
portable ones. I'd been going on about getting a greenhouse although I
wasn't quite expecting it for Valentine's Day. In fact, I didn't even
get it on the day.

My significant other doesn't like surprises. He doesn't like having
surprises kept from him and he doesn't like keeping them from others.
So I got my greenhouse on the 11th of February because he'd "spent all
day putting it together and couldn't wait three days to show me."

Come the morning of the 14th I asked if he'd got me a card. Confused
look. "But I gave you the greenhouse!"

I'm sure it will come as little surprise for you to find out that in
our house Valentine's Day has, yet again, already been. I arrived home
from work two nights ago to a grinning face hovering by the garage
door.

"Come and see your Valentine's present"

"No! Not again! It's meant to be a surprise!"

Crestfallen look. "But I can't hide it, it's already set up – I've
been working on it."

"Alright let's have a look then."

There on my recently acquired second hand bike was a pair of new road
tyres. All fitted and ready to go. Perfect for taking up my new hobby.
A greasy t-shirt and can of CRC lay nearby.

This whole present three days early thing is becoming a running joke
and to be honest it's so typical of the man I love that it just makes
Valentine's Day (well, week) doubly special.

But there's no escaping the fact that a greenhouse and bicycle tyres
aren't exactly the most romantic of presents. Chocolates and roses are
a thing of the past in our house, and quite frankly, it doesn't matter
a bit.

If you're struggling to decide between chocolates, flowers, teddy
bears or jewellery maybe consider getting something practical.
Something your Valentine actually needs.

Or do a job around the house they can't, or don't want, to do. If our
spare room, which has been in the redecoration process for the last
eight months, was finished as a Valentine's Day treat I would quite
happily forego chocolate forever.

Luckily it won't happen so I can comfortably make such outlandish promises.

I know a lot of people complain about Valentine's Day being a ploy for
card companies and florists to make their millions. "Corporate
nonsense", "you shouldn't need a special day to show your love" etc
etc.

Fine, these are fair comments but you don't have to buy a card – you
could make something. You don't have to buy a dozen roses – you could
buy bicycle tires. And while my partner and I say we love each other
every day without fail, it's not every day I get a brand new
greenhouse.

Maybe, just maybe, we could stop falling into the two camps of either
going all out or being a Valentines scrooge and interpret it another
way. Let go of your need for greatness or your feelings of cynicism
and do something a little bit different.

Most women really won't mind if you show a bit of initiative and think
outside the square, even if what you come up with doesn't seem overly
romantic. And if they do mind, they're probably not worth the effort.
That greasy t-shirt lying on our garage floor is dripping with more
love than any bunch of flowers ever could and I'm pretty sure it
didn't cost the earth. By Claire Hedgley

What do your Valentine's flowers really mean?

Roses are red, violets are blue, but what do they really mean when sent to you?

It is the most romantic day of the year, Valentines Day, and thousands
of lucky ladies, and some men, will be receiving flowers.

But before you get too excited, understand that flowers have a meaning
and it may not be a positive one. Check to see if your lover has sent
you a bouquet of love or disappointment below.

He loves you if you got:

* Red carnations: His poor heart aches for you.
* Gardenia: He secretly loves you.
* Zinnia: Lasting affection.
* Red roses: He absolutely loves you.
* Lilac rose: It was love at first sight.

He loves you not if you got:

* Striped carnations: Sorry he can't be with you.
* Yellow carnations: You're rejected.
* Freesia: Just friends.
* Anenome: Abandoned.
* Black rose: It's over.

And not surprisingly, a bouquet of withered flowers means rejected love.

Top Ten Things Not To Do On Valentine's day

Okay you no doubt have had all sorts of suggestions on things to do
for Valentine's Day - buy roses and chocolates and make dinner
reservations, but there needs to be a list of things not to do - that
can offer some advise to both people in a relationship or not.

So here are the Top Ten Digital Things Not To Do On Valentine's Day

10. Don't start trolling Craigslist Casual Encounters if you don't
have a date - the day after regrets are a lot more painful.

9. Don't spend all night tweeting - the messages will get more bitter
as your night rolls on. That goes for Facebook and any other social
site.

8. Don't start looking at online photos of your ex - why be depressed
by their happiness without you.

7. Don't buy multiple same gifts of jewelry - sooner or later if the
people have a chance to meet they will and this can really go wrong -
did this once (gave GF and just female friend the same necklace and
sure enough one night the friend wore and the GF saw - end of
relationship).

6. Don't use Urbanspoon random restaurant picker for Valentine dinner
- you need to spend a little more thought.

5. Don't have gifts delivered on day in a plain brown box - you should
get them sent to you early and go the extra mile and wrap.

4. Don't propose on Valentine's Day - why associate this commercial
day with your relationship - and just raises expectations of what you
will do every Valentine's Day in the future.

3. Don't plagiarize a poem from online - if you can't write one
yourself don't bother. Buy a book of love poetry and offer to read
them to her/him.

2. Don't get exercise equipment or gym memberships - if I have to
explain that you more than likely don't have someone to buy them for.

1. DO NOT tweet, IM or drunk or sober dial your ex - you come off as a
stalker or just look really bad. And if you have any fame you could
end up in the papers looking even more pathetic.

The perfect cake for Valentine’s Day

I have just baked a luscious chocolate and blueberry cake, perfect for
Valentine's Day. But it would also be great for weddings, birthdays or
other special occasions. It's one of those rich, dense chocolaty cakes
that are simply irresistible!

The blueberries are a special surprise. Don't let the idea of grated
zucchini put you off. They can't be seen when the cake has been baked
but help to keep it moist for a several days. The icing, made from a
200 gram block of chocolate and some sour cream is so delightfully
sinful it will tempt every chocolate lover!

The recipe comes from "Plenty" published by the Whakatane West Rotary
Club. The Rotarians wanted to create something significant to
celebrate their 40th birthday. So they decided to put out a book to
showcase the Eastern Bay of Plenty's wonderful food and lifestyle. It
has given the locals a chance to share their favourite recipes and
quirky anecdotes. All the profits from the sale of this book will be
used for community projects

When a community recipe book is put together people will often be
prepared to divulge special family recipes and this book is no
exception. As one of the contributors says "I hate sharing my secret
but it's for a good cause!"

The recipes reflect the local food which comes from the land and the
bush as well as the sea. As you might expect from a coastal region
there are lots of seafood recipes such as a duet of whitebait, tuatua
fritters, creamed paua pastries, scallops on minted pea puree, and
smoked marlin pasta.

The Isis fish salad makes a great lunch. It is best made with freshly
caught snapper, kingfish or gurnard.

Roz Tucker created it on a maiden voyage to White island from snapper
caught on the way out. A little lemon salt is sprinkled on the fish.
It is then very quickly fried and tossed through a salad which
contains such ingredients as rock melon, tomatoes, cucumber and snap
peas. Over this a dressing made from orange juice, pickled ginger, soy
sauce and coconut cream. Light and delicious!

There are also chapters on nibbles and starters, barbecues and
picnics, wild foods, mains, desserts and sweet treats. Most of these
look yummy and are easy and quick to make.

For a very special dinner I'd start with the venison and brandy
terrine. For the main it would be the eye fillet on kumara rosti. For
dessert, the "Berry White Island", a romantic concoction of fresh
raspberries, cream, yoghurt, and crushed meringues. This would also be
a great meal to impress overseas guests and a welcome change from
roast lamb and pavlova!

"Plenty" was designed to be more than a recipe book. The photographs
capture the beauty of the coastal scenery as well as the food. As you
leaf through the book you almost feel as if you are at Ohope Beach
with sand between your feet, taking a leap into the water from the
Ohiwa wharf with the local kids, whitebaiting at Thornton Beach or
watching a glowing sunset at Lake Rotoma.

Another special feature of the book is the snippets of local history.
I loved the tale of how the first kumara arrived in New Zealand in the
great waka Mataatua and was planted at Matirerau.

The book also recounts how many years later Captain James Cook sailed
into the area and discovered how the sea, bays and rivers "abounded
with a great variety of excellent Fish," and mentioned that the
lobsters were the best his crew had ever eaten. No wonder he gave it
the name of the Bay of Plenty.

These days "The Bay of Plenty is still one of the great markets of the
world. Weka fricassee and kakapo casserole have been taken off the
menu, but now seafood chowder, whitebait fritters, wild pork, fresh
stream trout, native honey, cheese, berry fruits, citrus and olives,
to name but a few, all hail from the land, sea and soil."

Just reading about all this great food will be sure to tickle your
taste buds, and make you dream of a romantic weekend away .A great
place to fish, swim surf or simply lounge on the beach before tucking
into a picnic basket or firing up a barbecue. Must do this summer!

Plenty is published by the Whakatane West Rotary Club By Lyn Potter

Price $44.90

To finds out more go to:

http://www.whakatanewestrotary.org/Plenty.html

Chocolate cake the blueberry way

Recipe by Heidi Rosewarne

from Plenty published by the Whakatane West Rotary Club

http://www.whakatanewestrotary.org/Plenty.html

Ingredients

125g butter

250g cooking chocolate

½ cup white sugar

1 cup brown sugar

3 eggs

1 teaspoon vanilla essence

½ cup yoghurt, plain or fruit

2½ cups flour

2 teaspoons baking soda

1 teaspoon cinnamon

pinch of salt

2 cups grated zucchini

1½ cups Blueberry Corner blueberries

Icing

200g cooking chocolate

¼ cup sour cream

Method

In a large pot, melt butter and chocolate until smooth.

Cream through sugar and beat in eggs, one at a time, with a wooden
spoon. Add a little flour to prevent curdling. Add vanilla and
yoghurt, and then fold in the flour, baking soda, cinnamon and salt.
Finally, fold in zucchini and blueberries and spread mixture into a
greased 23cm cake tin.

Bake at 170˚C for 45-60 minutes. Cook for 20 minutes longer if using
frozen blueberries.

Ice when cool with 200g melted cooking chocolate and ¼ cup sour cream.

I have made this cake for weddings and Christmas as well as many
birthdays. It is a rich, moist and dense cake with the surprise of not
only blueberries but zucchini too! Heidi Rosewarne ( Blueberry Corner)

Sex or booze? Kiwis prefer relations over Riesling

Most New Zealanders would rather give up alcohol than forgo sex, but a
fifth of women and a 10th of men would rather have a drink than a romp
in the sack, according to a new poll.

The Research New Zealand survey found that while 73 percent of people
would consider giving up alcohol for more than a month, 92 percent of
men and 80 percent of women would rather have sex than a drink.

Some 4 percent said they would rather give up all their friends than
abstain from alcohol, while 5 percent would prefer to forgo a rested
night's sleep.

People were most likely to consider giving up cigarettes and online
social networking in order to keep drinking, the poll found.

But priorities varied by age, with young people aged 15 to 34 valuing
sex and their cellphones much more than people over 55.

The questions on alcohol were added to Research New Zealand's regular
monthly survey of 500 people to show support for the Drug Foundation's
FebFast campaign, which encourages people to abstain from alcohol for
the month of February.

Campaign coordinator Catherine Milburn said the poll findings were "an
eye opener". "Amazingly, some people would rather stop seeing their
friends or give up sex, sleep, their cellphones, the internet and even
their cars before knocking off the booze," she said.

"They're in the minority, though – most people put their mates ahead
of alcohol and still value a good night's sleep, a roll in the hay,
and time in front of the telly or on the internet."

Ms Milburn added that it was "really encouraging" that more than seven
in 10 New Zealanders would consider giving up alcohol for more than a
month.

She said the FebFast campaign was fortunately not asking people to
forgo their favourite past-times, but to just "press pause on their
drinking".

"For some people, having a break from alcohol might actually give them
more time – and inclination – for some of these other activities."

A number of well-known New Zealanders have endorsed the event,
including MPs Jackie Blue and Iain Lees-Galloway, Christchurch Mayor
Bob Parker and journalists Mike McRoberts and his wife Paula Penfold.

NZPA

The perfect Valentine's gift for a princess

It's the perfect Valentine's gift - a packet of souvenir condoms with
an image of Prince William looking lovingly at his fiancée Kate
Middleton on the cover.

According to the website "Crown Jewels Condoms of Distinction has
commissioned a unique heritage edition Royal Wedding Souvenir boîte de
capotes" to celebrate the royal couple's engagement.

Crown Jewels say the condoms "combine the strength of a prince with
the yielding sensitivity of a princess-to-be", the packet includes a
"collectable portrait of the couple as they might appear on their
wedding day".

Perhaps unsurprisingly, the product is not endorsed by Prince William,
Kate Middleton or any other member of the Royal Family.

A pack of three condoms costs about $11, those looking for a bulk buy
can get nine for $30.

Click on the video tab above to see why the appeal for products with
an official Royal Warrant is starting to fade. By James Murray

Top Ten Things Not To Do On Valentine's Day

Okay you no doubt have had all sorts of suggestions on things to do for Valentine's Day - buy roses and chocolates and make dinner reservations, but there needs to be a list of things not to do - that can offer some advise to both people in a relationship or not.

So here are the Top Ten Digital Things Not To Do On Valentine's Day

10. Don't start trolling Craigslist Casual Encounters if you don't have a date - the day after regrets are a lot more painful.

9. Don't spend all night tweeting - the messages will get more bitter as your night rolls on. That goes for Facebook and any other social site.

8. Don't start looking at online photos of your ex - why be depressed by their happiness without you.

7. Don't buy multiple same gifts of jewelry - sooner or later if the people have a chance to meet they will and this can really go wrong - did this once (gave GF and just female friend the same necklace and sure enough one night the friend wore and the GF saw - end of relationship).

6. Don't use Urbanspoon random restaurant picker for Valentine dinner - you need to spend a little more thought.

5. Don't have gifts delivered on day in a plain brown box - you should get them sent to you early and go the extra mile and wrap.

4. Don't propose on Valentine's Day - why associate this commercial day with your relationship - and just raises expectations of what you will do every Valentine's Day in the future.

3. Don't plagiarize a poem from online - if you can't write one yourself don't bother. Buy a book of love poetry and offer to read them to her/him.

2. Don't get exercise equipment or gym memberships - if I have to explain that you more than likely don't have someone to buy them for.

1. DO NOT tweet, IM or drunk or sober dial your ex - you come off as a stalker or just look really bad. And if you have any fame you could end up in the papers looking even more pathetic.

Valentine crowds dance the night away

Visitors to Indiana Downs on Saturday celebrated Valentine's Day with dinner and candlelight while alsosupporting important charitable causes.

The second floor clubhouse was filled with more  than 300 people who dined and danced to support the American Heart Association, and the track's Family Pavilion had around 100 who were working to raise money for the Waldron/St. Paul Imagination Library.

Saturday was the third year for the Valentine Gala that raises funds and awareness for heart diseases. The event was started by Trena James, the widow of Tom James, an Indianapolis businessman who died from a heart attack in 2007 at the age of 42, leaving behind his wife and four daughters.

"Tom looked like he was in perfect health," James said. "People need to know that heart disease is often a silent killer."

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James and her family, including daughters Erin, Morgan and Katie James and Carissa Bratcher, said they feel like the event honors the memory of Tom James. They hope to continue the annual dinner dance in the future and see it grow larger each year.

"This is a way for us to share our story and spread the word about heart disease to others," Erin said.

"We know that something like this can't bring our dad back," Carissa said, "but it is a way to deal with our loss and hopefully keep someone else from losing someone they love."

The dance included a buffet prepared by Indiana Downs chef Greg Schiesser, music by The Headliner Band and a silent auction. Many of those in attendance took advantage of a chance to pull out their party clothes and celebrate the holiday.

"You know me," said Jill Evans of Miss Jill's School of Dance. "I love to have a chance to dress up."

Those who attendedthe Waldron/St. Paul Imagination Library Valentine's Day dancewere very focused on the importance of raising money for the program that will provide books for children in the community.

"We are pleased with the turnout for our first year," organizer Jackie Runnebohm said, "but I think we will try a different time of year if we do this again. Valentine's Day is just too busy."

The purpose of the dance and other fundraisers planned by Runnebohm, Jeff and Pam Linder and other committee members is to raise enough money for an endowment at Blue River Community Foundation to pay for the Imagination Library program, which mails books each month to all children from birth to age 5 in the Waldron and St. Paul areas. Donations and fundraisers already have earned around $30,000 toward the $200,000 endowment goal.

The dance offered a large silent auction filled with donated items, and Runnebohm said the tickets to the dance along with this auction revenue should produce a hefty donation for the cause.

"People were generous with their donations," she said. "Everyone we talk to seems to agree that getting books into the hands of children is a good idea. People care about this project even if they don't live in Waldron or St. Paul."

The next project is selling Easter eggs filled with candy, stickers and treats. Last year, students at Waldron Elementary filled and sold almost 4,000 of the plastic eggs, and Runnebohm said this year they hope to sell even more.

Gina Pleak, principal at Waldron Elementary, said projects like Imagination Library teach children philanthropy while raising money to bring more books into the community.

Organizer Jeff Linder said he was pleased with the enthusiasm of the crowd at the Saturday's dance.

"A big part of what we want to do is make sure that everyone in the community understands what we are trying to accomplish," he said.

"It helps us that the Morristown Imagination Library is up and running. We think that community pride will make people in the Waldron/St. Paul area want the same program for their children. We hope to see this program expanded throughout the entire county."

Valentine’s Day around the world

It's Valentine's Day today and while the rest of the world celebrated with flowers and chocolates, a bunch of Kiwi blokes went to new heights for their Valentines.

You could take your beloved to a romantic dinner or, you could dress in their clothes and go for a run.

In a competition for the Rock radio station, men were asked to put on their partner's clothes, and run through an obstacle course.

The winner took home a tropical holiday for himself and his girlfriend.

Competitiveness was also on display in Thailand, where couples tried to break a Guiness World Record for the longest ever continuous kiss.

The current record stands at just over 32 hours.

And in the USA, the Victoria's Secret angels came out to share their pearls of wisdom on how to celebrate Valentine's Day in style.

Tips included not being afraid to "get sexier than usual".

Meanwhile, women in the Italian town of Verona rubbed Shakespeare's Juliet for luck in love and composed 'Dear Juliet' letters – hoping there really is someone out there for everyone. By Liz Puranam

Lovers seek world record : Kiss me not-so quick

PATTAYA, Thailand — A kiss is still a kiss — even if it goes on for
more than a day.

Fourteen couples gathered at a Thai beach resort to try to break the
world record for kissing, attempting to spend more than 32 hours
locked lip-to-lip.

The marathon kicked off at 6:00 a.m. local time on Sunday (6 p.m. ET
Saturday), with each couple given a space of 1 square meter (yard) in
which they had to spend the time kissing, without leaving except for
bathroom breaks.

Any break in the lip lock resulted in disqualification.

Besides the world record, couples were aiming for a diamond ring worth
50,000 baht ($1,624) and a 100,000 baht cash prize.

Participants took part to show their love and mark Valentine's Day,
although kissing in public is quite "I'm just taking part for fun, and
I'm looking forward to kissing for a long time,

During the event, couples were not allowed to sit, sleep or leave the
venue. They also had to continue kissing while using the toilet, with
staff accompanying them to verify the fact.

'I just want to show my love'
Within the limits, though, organizers did what they could to make the
couples comfortable. Werth and Urairat, for example, had a 13-inch
height difference, but a box was provided for her to stand on.

Food and drink could only be taken through straws, again with lips
locked. "I just want to show my love to my boyfriend and everybody who
is in love on Valentine's Day," said 31-year-old Nonthawat
Charoenkesornsin before the event began.

When the whistle blew, couples started kissing. The previous record of
32 hours, 7 minutes and 14 seconds was set in Germany.

"These couples, who joined the longest kissing world record, are
people who are in love," said organizer Somporn Narksuetrong.

"They want to be part of history by entering this competition to show
their love."

But while the spirit was willing, the flesh was weak, with couples
starting to drop out as time went on.

One woman fainted after just 34 minutes. Others left after a few hours.

"I could not make it anymore because my neck is hurting," said Amporn Ketmao.

The event is due to continue until Monday afternoon.

Couples lock lips for record in Thai kiss marathon

PATTAYA, Thailand (Reuters Life!) – A kiss is still a kiss -- even if
it goes on for over a day.

Fourteen couples from across Thailand gathered at Pattaya beach resort
to try and break the world record for kissing, attempting to spend
more than 32 hours locked lip-to-lip.

The marathon kicked off at 6:00 a.m. local on Sunday (6 p.m. ET
Saturday), with each couple given a space of 1 square meter (3 ft 3 in
square) in which they had to spend the time kissing, without leaving
except for bathroom breaks.

Any break in the lip lock resulted in disqualification.

Besides the world record, couples were aiming for a diamond ring worth
50,000 baht ($1,624) and a 100,000 baht cash prize.

Participants took part to show their love and mark Valentine's Day,
although kissing in public is quite unusual in Thailand.

"I'm just taking part for fun, and I'm looking forward to kissing for
a long time," said Felix Werth, a 32-year-old German participating
with his Thai girlfriend, 21-year-old Urairat Oottaboon.

During the event, couples were not allowed to sit, sleep or leave the
venue. They also had to continue kissing while using the toilet, with
staff accompanying them to verify the fact.

Within the limits, though, organizers did what they could to make the
couples comfortable. Werth and Urairat, for example, had a
33-centimetre (13 inch) height difference, but a box was provided for
her to stand on.

Food and drink could only be taken through straws, again with lips
locked. "I just want to show my love to my boyfriend and everybody who
is in love on Valentine's Day," said 31-year-old Nonthawat
Charoenkesornsin before the event began.

When the whistle blew, couples started kissing. The previous record of
32 hours, 7 minutes and 14 seconds was set in Germany.

"These couples, who joined the longest kissing world record, are
people who are in love," said organizer Somporn Narksuetrong.

"They want to be part of history by entering this competition to show
their love."

But while the spirit was willing, the flesh was weak, with couples
starting to drop out as time went on.

One woman fainted after just 34 minutes. Others left after a few hours.

"I could not make it anymore because my neck is hurting," said Amporn Ketmao.

The event is due to continue until Monday afternoon.

Think a kiss is just a kiss? New book tells all

Ever wondered about the political uses of a kiss, the kiss's changing
status or legendary movie kisses? Do you find yourself needing to say
the word in Albanian, Icelandic or even, perchance, Maori?

Fear not. "A Compendium of Kisses," the guide to everything oscular --
that's "of or pertaining to kissing" for the unenlightened -- tells
all about one of the world's most universal gestures, whether simple
greeting or sublime.

"When I came to look at the kiss, the romantic side is such a small
part of it," said British novelist and actress Lana Citron, who
compiled the book.

"I love how when you're born, the first thing is, you're kissed,
you're welcomed into the world. It's this little gesture that follows
you throughout life, through all the most important parts of your
life."

Citron's interest in kisses began with a short story she wrote a
decade ago about a lonely woman who collected kisses in jars -- such
as one for the lover who spurned her, one that was full of yearning --
and labeled them.

That led to her invitation to do an installation of kisses in jars,
all labeled, as part of an art exhibition. The response of viewers
sent her to the internet, searching out books on kisses and deciding
to write her own when nothing seemed just right.

"It was almost like opening a Pandora's chest and just being
overwhelmed by all the different ways a kiss is expressed, the
meanings attached to it and the things it symbolizes," she said.

"I fell in love with it, I really did. I was submerged in the world of
kisses for a year and came out of it with a book."

Her compendium mingles brief kiss anecdotes with kiss factoids and
scraps of poetry to cover evolutionary kisses, bonding kisses, artful
kisses, screen kisses, bike shed kisses or first kisses, passionate
kisses, Kama Sutra kisses, animal kisses and even The Death Kiss, to
name just a few.

She also traces the evolution of kissing through history, from its use
in Christian religious ceremonies -- "greet ye one another with a
kiss" -- to its social role as a greeting on many levels, including
between kings and the vassals they ruled.

"Then the kiss suddenly becomes eroticized, also compounded by
advances made in dentistry. Once it becomes eroticized, it also
becomes highly contentious socially," she said.

Do you know where 'The One' is?

Valentine's Day is the only holiday that divides the world into
successes and failures -- on this day you either have a valentine, or
you don't. And while many couples have come to regard the whole thing
as a Hallmark hookup -- a prix fixe pain in the "But honey, I forgot
to make reservations" -- that's easy for them to say. They have
somebody.

Being on the losing side of yet another Valentine's Day is
particularly painful in Silicon Valley. Here, men with sketchy
grooming habits and a tendency to talk too summa cum loudly when
trying to meet women frequently find that their successes in business
don't prevent them from being romantic rejects.

While many of the valley's lovelorn have tried to find each other
using the algorithm method -- subscribing to dating services such as
Match.com and eHarmony -- some have gone positively medieval, turning
their love lives over to matchmakers.

When Amy Andersen noted this pool of unrequited love in 2003, she
opened Linx Dating, a personalized matchmaking service that attempts
to connect Silicon Valley men with "gorgeous," "attractive San
Francisco women."

Andersen rescues laptop lonely hearts by introducing millionerd frogs
to Junior League princesses, often transforming the men with the help
of hair and wardrobe consultants.

Love-starved clients sometimes endure "mock date" coaching sessions
that prepare them for the real thing. "My job is to serve as their
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VP of marketing," Andersen said shortly before one of these ardent
tutorials. "We are strategizing about what to wear, what not to wear,
what to say, how to act, sound bites, areas to stay away from."

COUNTING DOWN TO V-DAY

You know how there's the famous "12 Days of Christmas"? Well, how
about the "14 Days to Valentine's Day"?

Each February I count down the days to Valentine's Day by sending my
husband one goody each day from Feb.1st through the 14th. It's never
anything big or expensive.

At this time of year, cards, candy and trinkets are readily available
at any store, but I also I try to include homemade and personalized
items, too. Some things I've sent before are: brownies with white
icing tic-tac-toe x's and o's; chocolate covered pretzels, a giant
heart shaped cookie, a postcard in the shape of giant lips, m&m's in a
heart-shaped container, etc.

This year I'm going to send a photo of our new dog, am going to try
making a heart shaped pizza and am eager to try the Jello cookie
bouquet in this week's tip. All you have to do is look around you and
through catalogs (Cheryle's Cookies is a great one) - there are ideas
all over the place!

I package the item up as creatively as possible and send it via US
mail, personal delivery or his co-workers. The people he works with
look forward to seeing what he receives each day, and he tells me they
tell him how lucky he is. (and I know he just eats that up!) Then on
the 14th I do an additional something like cooking his favorite meal
or decorating the house with red and pink paper streamers. It's fun to
plan out what I'll send him each day! submitted by: Kim Gau

DRESSING UP, STAYING IN

My husband and I had been married for only 5 months on our first
Valentine's together. We really didn't have much money to spend on
presents, and my husband is not creative at all, so I knew I would
have to come up with something if I want a romantic Valentine's.

So the week before the 14th we decided that we were not going to buy
presents, instead we would make the day special by doing something
together.

Because we are both working, and too tired in the evening to cook, we
bought our dinners from a lady, so dinner was all ready. When we got
home from work, we dressed... and I mean dressed. I wore my most
beautiful black evening dress, and he wore a black suit and white
shirt (he looked so sexy)... While I was doing my hair and my make-up
(as if we were going to a fancy place), he quickly set the table, lit
the candles, and put on some soft music.

We ended up dancing and sitting on the couch, telling each other how
much we love the other one, and in the end it was the most romantic
evening of my life.

16 Charitable Ways to Celebrate Valentine's Day

There are plenty of ways to do good and feel good this Valentine's
Day. Here are Fawcett's favorites.

1. Will You Be My…Volunteer? There's no shortage of ways you can help.
Volunteer at a local soup kitchen, animal shelter, or favorite
nonprofit, or offer to tutor a child in reading or math. You can find
loads of opportunities on http://www.VolunteerMatch.org, or check out
http://www.DoSomething.org, which helps younger folks rock the causes
they care about.

2. Put the "Fun" in Fundraising. If you're taking that special someone
out for a pricey dinner, why not have your bill go to a good cause?
Check your newspaper or online city pages for Valentine-themed
fundraisers that support local nonprofits. Or better yet, throw your
own happy hour or party, and donate the proceeds to charity.

3. Give a Little Bit. Sometimes a little helps a lot. Looking to put
your money where your mouth is? Donate a dollar a day to a cause that
calls to you through http://www.Philanthroper.org. Or support students
and classrooms in need in your hometown through
http://www.DonorsChoose.org.

4. Send Love Letters. Not just to your sweetheart, but to people and
organizations that are doing good things for the world. Tell them why
you respect and appreciate their work, and that they really do make a
difference. If you're feeling extra romantic, include a donation.

5. Reach Out to Those in Need. Deliver homemade Valentine's cards or
heart-shaped cookies to the sick, the elderly, the homeless — and
their caregivers. Call a local childrens' hospital, nursing home,
domestic violence or homeless shelter and ask how you can donate an
hour or two of your time.

5. Give Gifts That Give. There are dozens of charitable shopping sites
and online nonprofit stores selling gifts for a good cause. Look for
red Motorola phones, Gap T-shirts and iPods from Apple to support the
(Red) Campaign, or find cause-specific gifts to alleviate hunger,
breast cancer, deforestation and more at http://www.GreaterGood.org.
Can't find the perfect gift for your special someone? Give a Good Card
through http://www.NetworkforGood.org.

6. Remember Those Who Serve You. Think of all those people who make
your life easier and more convenient — every single day. Give a
thank-you card to the bus driver or the barista who serves you your
latte. Personally thank the janitor who keeps your office or campus
clean, or the people who pick up your trash. Leave your waiter an
extra tip, and smile–big–at the gas station attendant.

7. Clean Your Closets. Get a head start on spring-cleaning and donate
clothes, toys, furniture, household items, and old computers to
nonprofits accepting them. Check your local Big Brothers Big Sisters,
Salvation Army, or Goodwill Industries.

8. Love Your Mother (Earth). Take the trash challenge: For one day,
see if you can generate zero trash. Zip, nada, nothing. No cardboard
boxes, no disposable containers, no bottled water. Think of what you
can reduce and re-use, and call your county or city waste management
to find out about local compost programs.

9. Get Your Heart Pumping. Charity walks and runs raise money for a
good cause and get you moving in the great outdoors. Bring the family
or your co-workers along to make it a team event. To find an event,
check your local American Heart Association or a local runners' club,
such as Road Runners Club.

10. Adopt a Pet for a Day. Offer to take care of a pet for an ill or
homebound neighbor. Volunteer at your local animal shelter to take the
dogs for a walk. Or adopt an endangered species through the World
Wildlife Fund, and you'll get a lovable stuffed pet and adoption
certificate.

11. Be a Fair-Trade Valentine. Buy certified fair-trade chocolate from
companies that ensure that small-scale farmers receive higher and more
stable prices for their cocoa. Try Theo, Equal Exchange, or Alter-Ego
Fair Trade.

12. Say it With Organic Flowers. Buy fresh organic blooms from your
local farmer's market, or send a bunch from Organic Bouquet, which
donates 10 percent to charities like CARE, the Global Fund for Women,
and the American Red Cross.

13. Be Kind While You Dine. Taking your sweetie for a steak dinner
this V-Day? Choose a restaurant that sources its meat from
sustainable, humanely treated and harvested animals & farms. Visit
Sustainable Table's http://www.EatWellGuide.org to find vendors that
offer farms and stores that sell sustainably raised meat. For seafood
lovers, download the Monterey Bay Aquarium's Seafood Watch app for
your smart phone.

14.Continue to Support Disaster Relief. We don't hear much about Haiti
or the Gulf Coast on the news these days, but these disasters are in
need of much support. Here are a few ideas: Adopt a Brown Pelican
through the International Bird Rescue Research Center, which picks up
oiled birds, cleans and rehabilitates them. Or provide direct support
to those facing financial devastation due to the Gulf Coast spill by
donating at Protect Your Coastline. For Haiti and other world
disasters, consider supporting an organization like Doctors Without
Borders, which sends medical and non-medical aid workers to countries
whose survival is threatened by violence, neglect, or catastrophe.

15. Say "I Do" to Charitable Weddings. Tying the knot this year?
Consider creating a charitable gift registry through the
http://www.IDoFoundation.org and its many retail and nonprofit
partners.

16. Celebrate with Small Acts of Kindness. Valentine's Day isn't the
only holiday this week: February 14-20th is Random Acts of Kindness
Week. What can you do? Pay for a coffee, lunch, or a toll for the
person behind you in line. Tape the exact change for a soda to a
vending machine. Send cards with joyful messages to strangers. Collect
canned goods for a food bank. Shovel a neighbor's driveway, or babysit
a friend's child, for free. Visit http://www.ActsofKindness.org for
hundreds of other ideas.

**

Elaine Gast Fawcett is a writer and consultant. She runs
http://www.FourWindsWriting.com, a national consulting firm providing
top-notch strategic communications for foundations, charitable
organizations, nonprofits and socially conscious companies.

VALENTINE'S WITH THOUGHT

VALENTINE'S WITH THOUGHT

f you are going to celebrate Valentine's, I suggest you do it with a
little forethought. I cringe every time I go to the grocery on
February 13 or 14 and see dozens of men crowding around the greeting
cards to buy their cards at the last possible moment.

Buy your card now and mail it out to Loveland, Colorado for extra
special treatment. Your card will be postmarked LOVEland, Colorado and
it will also be hand-stamped with a unique four line poem.

The Loveland Chamber of Commerce heads up this yearly romance project
with cards going to all 50 states and over 100 foreign countries
annually.

It's simple. Just enclose your pre-addressed, pre-stamped Valentine's
card in a larger envelope and mail to: Postmaster, Attn: Valentines,
Loveland CO 80537 by Michael Webb
Founder, www.TheRomantic.com

You can also send it to postmasters of these cities too:

Valentine, Texas 79854

Valentine, Nebraska 69201

Kissimmee, Florida 32741

Loving, New Mexico 88256

Bridal Veil, Oregon 97010

Romance, Arkansas 72136

ROSES ARE RED, POTATOES ARE PINK...

Because the members of my family are all my special loves, my Valentine's idea was for all of them several years ago.

For dinner on Valentine's Day, all the food I prepared was red or pink. I can't remember the whole menu, but it included pink mashed potatoes, pink bread, red Jell-O, and a red tinted heart cake with pink icing. The kids weren't sure what to think, and to this day, they groan when I mention the pink mashed potatoes! 

My hubby must love me a lot, because he sticks with me in spite of my crazy ideas. Submitted by: Janet

RENT A ROMANCE

Four years ago I wanted to come up with something totally unexpected and unusual for Valentine's Day. My husband is very easy to please and I knew that what ever I did he would be appreciative. I didn't want to just buy something for him to wear or to eat. So, I put my thinking cap on and this is what I came up with.

I got out the yellow pages and looked for Hot Tub companies. I actually found a couple of them that rented out portable hot tubs! After calling a few of them I decided on one and then put my plan into action.

It was being delivered while my husband was at work and they came early in the morning. I had to move all the dining room furniture out of the dining room to so the hot tub would fit! I moved all the furniture into the living room before they arrived. 

These guys rolled in a 4 person hot tub and set it up in my dining room! They started filling it and got it running for me before they left. Now my only concern was that it would be warm enough to go in by the time Steve got home from work! In the mean time I went to the store and bought some wine for later that evening. I kept calling Steve at work to be sure he wasn't making a surprise visit home!

I made a card and in it I explained that his Valentine's gift was inside the house waiting for him and I put the card on our front door. You cannot imagine the surprised look on his face when he saw a hot tub in the dining room! And I was in it! Above the hot tub was our dining room light and I had the lights dimmed, candles in the background and soft music on the CD player.

We had the best time and made lasting memories while that hot tub was there. The best part of renting the hot tub, the company that I rented it from was in a home and garden show and called to tell me that they couldn't pick it up for a few days! 
Submitted by: Darlene O'Donnell

A DIFFERENT KIND OF PARK

My girlfriend used to get disinterested easily, so I had to keep
finding new ways to keep her interested. One way was something out of
character for me, was to take her to the Cemetery for a picnic. Before
I got her, I purchased her favorite drink (diet coke) and her favorite
food (pineapple pizza) and set up a picnic in the cemetery with two
wine glasses set across from each other.

Hers was the one with her favorite flower sitting inside of it (a
rose) and beside that was a heart shaped box. When we got there she
opened the box to find chocolates surrounding a heart made of barbed
wire, after the laughing subsided, we had a wonderful afternoon of
relaxing in the most quiet place I knew of. I chose the quiet place
because we had earlier discussed that we did not have enough time for
each other as our obligations to other people got in the way.

You can chooses any spot and modify this accordingly.

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HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU

Last year for Valentine's Day I came across a copy of the children's
book How Much Do I Love You. I thought the story was very cute about a
big hare and its little hare and how they try to show one another
their love. To make the story more personalized, I printed out our
"pet" names for one another and glued them over the names of the
characters in the book (so now the story was about us!). She was so
amazed to open up the book and read the story that she took it to her
mother to show what I had done (the book still sits by our two stuffed
bunny rabbits in our guest bedroom).

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SHOW THE WORLD YOUR LOVE

One year when we had no money, my husband spelled "I love you Susan Jo" with cutout letters of cardboard and put it on our garage door. When I came home from work, that was there for all the world to see. He was used to coming up with creative idea's on a budget :-)

Well, this year was no different, we live in Ohio, where there is usually snow on the ground in February. So, my hubby got a red can of spray paint (he had already) and out in our pasture, he wrote his Valentine message to me! It was beautiful! Bright red paint on the glistening snow saying "I love you, the love of my life!" The people he worked with thought it was so neat, the newspaper came and took a picture and it was in the evening news! It is one of my most memorable gifts ever!

how green is your love life?

You drive a hybrid, eat organic, and are passionate about recycling. But how green is your love life?

Think about those lovely Valentine's Day roses and the environmental costs of growing them and the carbon miles involved in flying them in from faraway lands.

And what about used condoms, tossed into the toilet and making their way into sewers that perhaps pollute the ocean?

If an ecologically sustainable life between the sheets hasn't crossed your mind, you're still a "total environmental neophyte", according to author Stefanie Iris Weiss.

But help is on the way with Weiss's new handbook "Eco-Sex", which leaves no stone unturned in its mission to bring the bedroom front and centre into the battle to save the planet.

"I have always wanted to write a sex book. I am a very committed greenie, and I have been a vegetarian for 20 years. I saw a gap in the market and I couldn't believe no one had written about this topic," Weiss, 38, told Reuters.

"I think green sex is having its moment right now. I think it is the next big thing in green. People are realizing that their every day, most intimate habits, are deeply connected to this horrible crisis we are in," she said.

"Eco-Sex" will land on retail bookshelves on March 31 by Ten Speed Press.

From hand-cranked sex toys (and Web sites where old battery-driven devices can be recycled) to healthy, eco-friendly underwear (bamboo) and dating sites for ecological warriors, "Eco-Sex" aims to show readers how to reduce the carbon footprint of their love life -- and have fun doing it


REAL WORLD EXPERIENCE

Weiss, who says she either tried out or reviewed every item in the book, interviewed raw food chefs to get recipes for aphrodisiac meals for two, suggests the ideal first eco-date (biking), and recommends natural latex mattresses (but warns they are less bouncy than those made of springs, coils and synthetic foam).

She finds a vast range of natural or organic cosmetics, condoms made of latex that are also biodegradable, and resources for eco-sexy bling -- because neither diamonds nor gold are a self-respecting green girl's best friend.

"It was the most fun I have ever had researching a book in my life," she said.

As for flowers for your sweetheart -- the true eco-sexual would grow them in the backyard, or at least buy them locally from a farmers' market.

Weiss admits that "some people are going to make fun of the notion of eco-sex. I expect that."

She says eco-sex doesn't have to be tame, adding you can be passionate in bed and about Mother Earth "without coming off like you're (a 1960s hippie) trapped on the set of 'Hair the Musical.'"

Despite all the fun replacements for essential accessories in the dating game -- like plain old baking soda instead of chemical-heavy commercial teeth whiteners -- there is a serious side to "Eco-Sex".

With the planet headed towards a population of around nine billion oxygen-swilling, carbon-emitting people by 2040, according to the United Nations, the ultimate carbon offset is to choose sex that does not result in having babies.

"The No. 1 thing people can do to be an eco-sexual is to have fewer kids, or have none at all," said Weiss, who is childless.

If that sounds outrageous, just give a thought to the 90 percent of the estimated diapers sold each year that end up in landfills. Or how the carbon footprint of one extra person far outweighs all the energy-saving lightbulbs you've installed.

"I think over-population is an important conversation for people to have. It is something people think about in terms of third world countries. But it is also a conversation that would benefit us in America to have," she said.